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Relationship advice is easy to find, magazines, the Internet, your family.  There seems to be more advice on relationship than there are fish in the sea.  This article is no different, as it is relationship advice.  However it is different in it is written by a person who not only is giving the advice, but also practices what she preaches.  These are ten tips to have a happier relationship. These tips have been proven to work.  Also I have personally witnessed couples in turmoil that could have been avoided if they simply would have followed these tips.

Tip # 10:  Take things with a laugh.  It is difficult to be angry when you are laughing, or even smiling.  If you and your partner have a "I say it is this way.  No I say it is that way." Kind of disagreement turn it into a silly game.  Make it childishly silly. Put your hands on your hips (ladies) and wrinkle your nose.   You will be so busy laughing you will forget what the disagreement was even about.  It could even become a little game between the two of you.

Tip # 9:  A moment to breath.  When your partner comes home from a hard day at work (most days are hard days).  Give them a few minutes to sit and breath before asking or telling them of your day.  It is amazing how five minutes of  in a serene home can quickly alleviate stress.

Tip # 8:  Make more "us" time.  Between the time we have to work and the time we have to sleep there are only eight hours left for everything in our lives.  This makes for neglectful relationships if we are not careful. Skip the after work drink at the watering hole, or going out with friends instead head on home to your spouse.  Make your partner, rather than your friends your priority.  I know this is a tip that some may not agree with, but  I have found couples that do this are far closer, and genuinely happier than those who do not.

Tip #7:  Be willing to say "I'm sorry.  I was wrong."  It is difficult to be around a person who always must be right.  Even when they are wrong they will not admit it.  If you make a mistake admit to it, and apologize when necessary.  It will let your partner know that you acknowledge their opinion or answer.  Also that you are confident and comfortable enough with them to be vulnerable enough to apologize.

Tip # 6:  Offer help without expecting repayment.  Give to your partner.  I am not talking gifts and such.  Help them when they need it.  If they need someone to drive grandma to the doctor and you are free, volunteer.  Then do not ask for anything in return.  Let their gratitude be enough.  This will let them know you are more interested in them and their needs,  then you are your own gain.

Tip #5:  Never criticize or contradict your partner in public.  This is a "biggie" for me.  I can not be around couples who criticize or contradict each other in public.  It makes me feel uncomfortable.  Also it is embarrassing for the person on the receiving end.  There is no need to make private matters public.  In addition there is no reason to attempt to make your partner feel small and unimportant, which is what happens when this is done.

Tip # 4:  Do not bring money into your couple.  Your relationship is between you and your partner.  Not you, your partner, and the dollar.  Money troubles happen to each one of us.  If when money hardships do occur you stand together it is easier to make it through the hard times.  While if you let money drive a wedge between the two of you then your not only have money trouble, but you are also alone in this harsh, scary world.

Tip # 3:  Always use Thank you and Please.  This is the smallest, most important thing you can do for your relationship.  Say please and thank you for even the little things.  This will let your partner know you appreciate them, that you do not take them for granted, and you feel blessed to be with them.

Tip # 2:  Say "I love you."  Three little words that mean so much.  You give your partner your heart, telling them I love you lets them know you would give your heart to them again, and again, and again.

Tip # 1: Honesty.  It is much easier to forgive something you have done.  Then it is to forgive something you have done and them lied about.  A lie is like poison for a relationship.  It only takes a little cyanide to be fatal.  It only takes a little lie to kill a love.

I hope these tips are helpful to those who choose to use them.  I use them daily, and they work for me.